<p class="ql-block" style="text-align:center;"><b style="font-size:20px;">The Love of a Mature Person</b></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block"><span style="font-size:20px;">A mature person has integrity of his own being. When giving his love, he just gives without preconditions. When giving his love, he won't expect you to thank him. No, not a little, he never needs your thank, instead he will thank you for your acceptance of his love. </span></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block"><span style="font-size:20px;">One devotes all his passion to what he loves, as if he doesn't take repayment into account. In fact, he aches for the result that she would love him in response to his zealous devotion. Once his wish fails to be satisfied, he will be drowned in a deep pain. If one's love longs for repayment, it shows that he has no rich love to share, on the contrary, he is a beggar of love, and he needs others to love him. This kind of love is bound to result in anguish. </span></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block"><span style="font-size:20px;">Since we came to this world, we have been taught by our parents what should do and what should not do. Different families impose different ideas and directions on their children. If we obey our parents, they will think of us as good children. We know that others will like and respect us if we follow those rules. Therefore, we have no chances to follow our inner voice, but learn how to live for other's judgment. We will feel happy if we get praise from others, and feel sorry if we suffer criticism from others. Gradually we lose our nature, and we get customed to live in a superficial world made up of thoughts and ideas, however, the flower of life has no chance to bloom. We are restrained so much in our life that we long for the sunshine of freedom. Our society tries all means to remould us into mature "Caged Persons", and requires us not to live in accord with our own nature but so-called right thoughts, so finally we are enslaved by this society. Our society does not like independent persons, because the social stability is easy to be disturbed by them. </span></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block"><span style="font-size:20px;">My identity is important in others' eyes when I get along with others, as if that identity just stands for me. My very life is not the point, because others only care about my identity. If we base the communication on our identities, how could we touch the inner melody of our life? Maybe we have realized this problem, but who has enough power to change those deep-rooted social conventions? Life will be suffocated by great oppression, so catharsis is badly needed. The concept of identity is engraved so deeply on our souls, how can we put it aside? Alcohol can free us and make those thoughts go to hell. We can enjoy a special freedom that we can never experience in our ordinary state. Some true words can be heard when one is drunk. The short-lived insanity of forgetting himself is so attractive that many people are addicted to alcohol and can't help themselves. Now, there is a new way to save us from the restriction of our identities. The cyber chat has an advantage that you can have an equal and direct spiritual interflow with your cyber friends. The Internet really provides us with a freedom of being crazy. Of course, you can reveal your true color without reservation, or you can go on disguising yourself as anything else. You can enjoy the freedom in different ways, and the choice is in your hand. </span></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block"><span style="font-size:20px;">No one is permitted to be himself in this society. </span></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block"><span style="font-size:20px;">I long for the freedom of being myself. Others can't set standards for my life. Everyone is unique in the world. Go your own way and write the canto of your life. It is the most important to be as you are. In fact, we don't know what truth is, and life is just the process of exploring the truth. No so-called common truth for all people, each one should seek his own truth. It's right for you if it can strengthen and perfect your life. </span></p><p class="ql-block"><br></p><p class="ql-block" style="text-align:right;"><span style="font-size:20px;">Written on Thursday, May 9, 2002</span></p>