母女情深（Mother and daughter love each other ）

母女情深

原创：倪捷儿 摄影：马玲、罗悦明、倪捷儿

Original: Ni Jie Photography: Ma Ling, Luo Yeming, Ni Jie

似春花烂漫，洒满我青春的季节；似夏日热烈，温暖我生活的角落；似清秋静好，丰硕我人生的航道；似暖冬和煦，度越我许多的迷茫。您，用竹菊气节，构筑我脊柱梁骨；您，用梅兰芬芳，培育我凝香溢园。念念母仪，静侯岁月，念念母爱，弥漫心房。谨以此美篇，赞念母爱之广宇，赞叹母女之情深。

Like the blooming spring flowers, filling my youth season; like the warm summer, warming the corners of my life; like the peaceful autumn, enriching the course of my life; like the warm winter, overcoming many of my confusions. You, with the spirit of bamboo and chrysanthemum, built the backbone of my spine; you, with the fragrance of peony and plum, nurtured me to fill the garden with fragrance. Remembering the mother's virtues, waiting patiently for the passage of time, remembering the mother's love, pervading the heart. With this beautiful piece, I praise the vastness of motherly love and admire the deep affection between mothers and daughters.

记忆很神奇，有时候一首歌、一张照片和一篇文章，就会勾起心底的情愫。有一种爱不求回报，有一种爱奉献到老，有一种爱无怨无悔，这就是妈妈的爱。妈妈今年已93岁，毕业于浙江医科大学，救死扶伤三十载，养儿育女三十载。她医术高超，医徳高尚；她温柔贤慧，吃苦耐劳。让我慢慢诉说我与母亲的故事吧。

Memories are amazing, sometimes a song, a photo, and an article can evoke emotions from the bottom of your heart. There is a kind of love that does not ask for anything in return, there is a kind of love that is dedicated until old age, and there is a kind of love that has no regrets. This is the love of a mother. My mother is 93 years old this year. She graduated from Zhejiang Medical University, has been saving lives for 30 years, and has raised children for 30 years. She has excellent medical skills and high medical ethics; she is gentle, wise, and hardworking. Let me slowly tell you my story with my mother.

大家闺秀，如何造就。外婆育有三女四男，母亲排行老三。外婆的育女经是：一是读书。那个年代的女孩上学是件稀罕的事，但母亲本科毕业于浙江医科大学。二是吃苦。千金小姐要洗衣做饭，要照顾弟妹，也要田里劳动。三是责任。年幼时姐姐要带着弟妹，长大了姐姐要赚钱供弟妹读书。外婆真是大智慧。

How is a gentlewoman created? My grandmother raised three daughters and four sons. My mother was the third in line. My grandmother's parenting philosophy was as follows: First, study. In those days, it was rare for girls to go to school, but my mother graduated from Zhejiang Medical University with a bachelor's degree. Second, endure hardships. A young lady has to do laundry, cook, take care of younger siblings, and work in the fields. Third, take responsibility. When she was young, her elder sister had to take care of her younger siblings. When she grew up, her elder sister had to earn money to pay for her younger siblings' education. My grandmother was truly wise.

浪漫相遇，喜结姻缘。1953年8月，母亲浙江卫校毕业前往余姚报到，乘车途中巧遇英俊的军人父亲，热情的父亲，陪母亲报到并安顿好一切，并互留了通讯地址，后来他们书信来往互生情愫，于1957年8月喜结良缘。1962年9月，父母的爱情结晶，他们的第一个孩子-我，有缘与他们相见了。

Romantic encounter, happy marriage. In August 1953, my mother graduated from Zhejiang Health School and went to report to Yuyao. On the way, she met her handsome military father by chance. The enthusiastic father accompanied my mother to report and settled everything, and they exchanged contact information. Later, they exchanged letters and fell in love. In August 1957, they got married happily. In September 1962, the love fruit of my parents, their first child - me, had the chance to meet them.

贤妻良母，岁月见证。儿时，父母每月的工资总和不超百元，日子过得紧巴。但能干的母亲，不但让孩子们吃上饱饭，还能吃上零食，满足孩子们买书买文具的要买。冬日里，把毛线拆了再编织，把棉袄拆了换新棉。过年了，买块花布自己裁缝，还能让全家人吃上鱼肉。母亲的勤劳和精打细算，让我们的童年过得很快乐。

A virtuous wife and a good mother, the years bear witness. When I was a child, my parents' monthly salaries never exceeded 100 yuan, and life was tight. But my capable mother not only made sure my siblings and I had enough to eat, but also allowed us to have snacks and buy books and stationery. In the winter, she would unravel the wool and knit again, and take apart the cotton jacket to replace it with new cotton. During the New Year, she would buy a piece of colorful cloth and sew it herself, so that the whole family could eat fish and meat. My mother's diligence and frugality made our childhood happy.

母女情深，今生难忘。从小目睹母亲的不易，所以总想着帮帮母亲。学龄前学会了买菜买饭、整理房间、照顾弟妹，少年时学会了烧菜做饭、洗衣洗裤、体贴父母。母亲常喜欢摸摸我的小胖脸，我则撤娇地对着母亲傻笑，那是被宠爱的满足。如果遇到母亲发工资，她会带着我去街里买吃的，冬日里一碗热腾腾的小混沌，夏日里一碗凉凉冰淇凌，让我至今难忘。

The deep affection between a mother and daughter is unforgettable in this life. From a young age, I witnessed my mother's difficulties, so I always wanted to help her. In preschool, I learned how to buy vegetables and food, tidy up the room, and take care of my younger siblings. In my teenage years, I learned how to cook, do laundry, and be considerate of my parents. My mother often liked to touch my chubby face, and I would giggle foolishly at her, which was the satisfaction of being loved. When my mother received her salary, she would take me to the street to buy food. A steaming hot congee in winter and a cold ice cream in summer, which I still remember.

都说丈母娘看女婿 越看越欢喜，真是千准万确。当时，我在余姚团市委工作，罗爸在宁波团市委工作。每次周末相见，母亲都会叮嘱我去菜场买鱼买肉买好吃的款待，有一次，我偶见罗爸的毛衣旧了，回家与母亲顺便一说，母亲便立马买来三斤群英牌全毛毛钱，母女不分昼夜地编织，下周罗爸再来，又软又暖的毛衣毛裤就让他穿上，把罗爸的心都化了。

They say that the mother-in-law looks at her son-in-laws and the more she sees them, the more she is happy. It is absolutely true. At that time, I worked in Yuyao Communist Youth League Municipal Committee, and Luo's father worked in Ningbo Communist Youth League Municipal Committee. Every weekend I saw each other, my mother would tell me to go to the vegetable market to buy fish, meat and delicious food. Once, when I saw that Papa's sweater was old, I went home to talk to my mother, and my mother immediately bought three pounds of sterling dollars. The mother and daughter knitted around the clock. The next week, when Papa came back, he put on the soft, warm sweater and trousers, which changed his heart.

1986年7月，与罗爸喜结连理。母亲倾其所有，为女儿精心添置嫁妆，床上用品、服饰手饰和电器设备，那时的财务和物资是紧缺的，进口的电器只有侨汇商场有，母亲真是有本事，居然如愿购到女儿陪嫁的四大件，把我的小姐妹都眼红的不行。清楚记得，当母亲给钱让我买几件新衣时，自己口袋已只剩下20元。

In July 1986, she married Luo Ba. Her mother spent everything she had to carefully prepare a dowry for her daughter, including bedding, clothing, accessories, and electrical appliances. At that time, financial and material resources were scarce, and imported electrical appliances were only available at the Overseas Chinese Exchange Market. My mother was really capable; she managed to buy the four major items for my sister-in-law, which made my other female friends envious. I clearly remember that when my mother gave me money to buy some new clothes, I only had 20 yuan left in my pocket.

婚后，我学着母亲的样勤俭持家，把一元钱当二元用；学着母亲的样养育孩子，日夜陪伴乐在其中；学着母亲的样经营婚姻，互敬互爱比翼双飞；学着母亲的样为人师表，把学生当成自己的弟妹。女儿已出嫁为人妻人母，母亲还是牵心挂肠。缺钱了，肯定是她第一个递上钱；生病了，肯定是她第一个站在病床前。

After marriage, I learned from my mother how to be thrifty and manage the household, using one yuan as if it were two yuan; I learned from my mother how to raise children, spending day and night with them and enjoying it; I learned from my mother how the marriage should be managed, respecting and loving each other and flying together; I learned from my mother how a teacher should behave, treating students as if they were my own siblings. My daughter has already married and become a mother, but my mother is still worried about her. When she is short of money, she will definitely be the first to offer money; when she is sick, she will definitely be the first at the bedside.

母亲从退休的那日起，便伴我左右，帮我度过各种困难。那年冬天，我参加浙师大在职学习，女儿还只有八个月，大雪纷飞，母女三人同行在就学路上场景还历历在目，如果没有母亲相伴，都无法想像怎样完成学业。女儿上幼儿园了，我也给父母报了老年大学，从此才真正开启了母亲幸福的晚年享乐生活。

Since the day of my retirement, my mother has been at my side and helping me through all kinds of difficulties. That winter, I attended Zhejiang Normal University on a part-time basis. My daughter was only eight months old. The snow was falling. The three of us walked together on our way to school. Without my mother, we could not imagine how to complete our studies. My daughter went to kindergarten, and I also reported to my parents the university for the aged. From then on, I really opened the happy life of my mother.

2006年3月，我随罗爸工作调动来到杭州，不久父母也移居杭州。他们对杭州格外的欢喜和亲切，他们最爱的女儿女婿在，他们青春年华的记忆在。约着朋友们，去看早春二月植物园的梅香满园，去看阳春三月苏堤的桃红柳绿，去看仲夏曲苑风荷的满园荷花，去闻金秋十月杭州的满城桂香，去看冬日湿地的芦苇飘飘。

In March 2006, I came to Hangzhou with my father's job transfer. Soon after, my parents also moved to Hangzhou. They were especially happy and kind to Hangzhou. They loved their daughter and son-in-law, and their memories of their youth were there. They met with friends to see the plum blossoms in full bloom in the botanical garden in early February, the peach blossoms and willows in full bloom on the Su Causeway in early March, the lotus flowers in full bloom in the garden in mid-summer, the full city of osmanthus fragrance in Hangzhou in late October, and the reeds floating in wetlands in winter.

转眼间，时光的指针来到了2019年，父母来杭州定居已足足十二年。杭州真是绝妙的地方，好山好水养好人，我从来没感觉自己已年过半百，感觉自己还如少女一般爱做粉色梦，还如少妇一般爱穿衣打扮，甚至如少年一般雄心壮志，父母的心态也一样年轻活跃。父母哺育了我们长大，现在该是我们反哺他们的时候了。

In the blink of an eye, the pointer of time has reached 2019, and my parents have settled in Hangzhou for twelve years. Hangzhou is really a wonderful place. Good mountains and water nurture good people. I have never felt that I was over half my life. I still feel like a young girl who loves to dream in pink, like a young woman who loves to dress up, and even like a young man who is full of ambition. My parents' mentality is just as young and active. My parents raised us up, and now it's time for us to repay them.

让父母有好的养老环境、生活照顾和精神享受，这个念头在我心中酝酿了好些年，直到2019年才如愿以偿。朗和国际医养中心，成了父母幸福的港湾，长者大都来自高校、医院、机关退休的，琴棋书画、唱歌跳舞，热闹非凡。2020年初疫情期间，与父母整整两个半月未见。那一日，我们相拥着来到了波光粼粼的西湖。

To provide parents with a good environment for old age, life care, and spiritual enjoyment, this idea has been brewing in my mind for many years, and I finally achieved it in 2019. Lang International Health Care Center has become a happy haven for parents. Most of the elderly come from retired universities, hospitals, and institutions. They play musical instruments, chess, calligraphy, painting, sing, dance, and are lively. In the early 2020 pandemic, I did not see my parents for two and a half months. On that day, we hugged and came to the sparkling West Lake.

2020年6月7日，是父亲的90大寿，父亲说要与母亲一起过，就随父亲的心愿一起过吧。不高调、不排场、不铺张浪费，我们用心筹划了一场低调、简朴和热闹的寿宴。寿宴就安排在朗和，戴王冠、点蜡烛、许心愿、吹蜡烛、齐唱生日歌、祝福、合影等，一个环节都不能少。亲人欢聚一堂其乐融融，父母笑得合不拢嘴。

On June 7, 2020, it was my father's 90th birthday. My father said he wanted to spend it with my mother, so we followed his wishes and had a low-key, simple, and lively birthday celebration. We carefully planned a low-key, simple, yet lively and lively birthday celebration. The birthday celebration was arranged at Langhe, and the activities included wearing crowns, lighting candles, making wishes, blowing out candles, singing birthday songs, giving blessings, and taking photos together. The family gathered together and enjoyed themselves, and the parents couldn't stop smiling.

朗和的朗字，出自《诗经.大雅.既醉》：昭明有融，高朗令终。和字，则出自《黄帝内经》：法于阴阳，和于术数。朗和一直秉承“用心陪伴用心爱”的服务宗旨，得到同行和长者们的一致好评，省市各级领导也先后来朗和考察，给予肯定和支持。植根于内心的善念，是最真的情怀；发源于天道的行为，是最美的姿态。

The word "lang" in Langhe comes from "The Book of Songs. The Great Song. After Drinking": Bright and clear, high and noble. The word "he" comes from "Huangdi Neijing": Follow the yin and yang, and harmonize with the arts. Langhe has always adhered to the service purpose of "accompanying with heart and loving with heart", and has received high praise from peers and the elderly. Provincial and municipal leaders have also visited Langhe in succession, giving affirmation and support. The goodness rooted in the heart is the truest sentiment; the behavior originating from the Tao is the most beautiful posture.

2022年5月，父母来到了离我一墙之隔的五云山疗养院康复中心。顺是最好的孝，陪伴是最长情的告白，父母的笑容里透着欢喜和幸福，那也是子女最欢喜和幸福的事。小时候父母陪着我们数夏夜的星星，现在就让我们陪着他们数星星；小时候父母为我们办生日宴，现在就让我们围坐他们身边给贺寿。小时候父母为我们遮风挡雨，如今，我们也该成为他们最坚实的依靠。

In May 2022, my parents came to the Wuyun Mountain Rehabilitation Center, which is just a wall away from me. The best filial piety is to accompany them, and the longest-lasting confession is to accompany them. The joy and happiness in their smiles are the happiest and happiest things for children. When we were children, our parents accompanied us to count the stars on summer nights. Now let us accompany them to count the stars. When we were children, our mothers and fathers held birthday parties for us. Now let us sit around them and celebrate their birthday. When our parents shielded us from the wind and rain, now it is our turn to become their most solid support.

2022年8月，父母与我们同住林月居。父母有滋有味过起了神仙般的生活，锻炼、聊天、下棋、练琴、喝茶、玩手机、弄花草。我负责一日三餐，每天变着花样荤菜搭配。看着父母的笑容，常常使我感动，使我欣慰，使我安宁。陪伴，是日复一日，是点点滴滴。陪伴父母过百年，既是自己的责任，也是自己最好的修为。

In August 2022, our parents lived with us in Lin Yue Ju. Our parents lived a life like a fairy, exercising, chatting, playing chess, practicing piano, drinking tea, playing with mobile phones, and taking care of flowers and plants. I was responsible for three meals a day, and I changed the combination of meat dishes every day. Watching my parents' smiles often moved me, made me feel relieved, and made me feel at peace. Companionship is day by day, in every moment. Accompanying parents for a hundred years is both one's responsibility and one's best cultivation.

在父母的养老问题上，罗爸给予我莫大的支持。他常常与父母聊聊天，还耐心地教母亲吹奏葫芦丝，并欢乐的与母亲合奏，会拉二胡给父母听，还会把自己写好的书法给父母欣赏并探讨。看着他们亲密无间的模样，我常常很感动。都说女婿是半子，父母真心赞美，他们的女婿是全子，比全子还好。

In terms of my parents' old-age care, my father gave me great support. He often chatted with my parents, patiently taught my mother how to play the hulusi, and happily played with my mother. He also played the erhu for my parents to listen to and showed my parents his calligraphy that he had written. Seeing their intimate appearance, I was often very moved. It is said that a son-in-law is half a son, but my parents truly praise their son-in-law as a full son, even better than a full son.

2023年5月初，多年不见的表哥、表姐和表姐夫们，从嵊泗、上海来到我的家-林月居，看望他们的阿姨和姨夫，乐得父母合不拢了嘴。那欢喜的眼神，那灿烂的笑容，如这春光般明媚，讲过去的故事，讲今天的故事，你看着我，我看着你，场面实在太温馨了。对长者而言，亲人情永远是他们晚年最喜欢、最开心的。

In early May 2023, my cousins, aunts, and uncles, who had not seen each other for many years, came from Shengsi and Shanghai to my home, Lin Yue Ju, to visit their aunt and uncle. Their parents were so happy that they couldn't stop smiling. The joyful look in their eyes and the bright smile were as bright as the spring sunshine. They told stories about the past and the present. You looked at me, I looked at you, the scene was too warm. For the elderly, family love is always their favorite and happiest in their later years.

2023年5月中旬，父母新冠双双住院。出院后，父亲基本卧床不起了，母亲的老年痴呆症加极，还开始出现妄想。我的身心也累到极致，但咬咬牙生活还得继续。2024年5月中旬，母亲因爆发老年痴呆妄想症，而不得不送去杭州市第一人民医院城北院区治疗，不舍和无奈，再心痛也只能让父母分开，妈妈现已适应那儿的生活照顾和病症治疗。

In mid-May 2023, both parents were hospitalized with COVID-19. After being discharged, my father was basically bedridden, and my mother's Alzheimer's disease worsened, and she also began to develop delusions. My physical and mental exhaustion reached its limit, but I had to bite my teeth and continue living. In mid-May 2024, my mother had to be sent to the North District of the First People's Hospital of Hangzhou for treatment due to the outbreak of Alzheimer's disease and delusions. Although I was reluctant and helpless, I had no choice but to separate my parents. My mother has now adapted to the life care and treatment of the disease there.

童年，父母让我感受到爱的幸福，教会我如何去爱一个人。青年，传承着父母给予满满的爱，寻觅到我爱和爱我的丈夫，养育了我爱和爱我的女儿。如果把人生看成一段诗，那么母爱父爱就是这诗中最深情的画笔；如果把人生看成一首歌，那么母爱父爱就是歌中最动人的音符。天之大，唯有母亲父亲的爱完美无瑕。我要用行动，尽我余生最大的力，让父母天天快乐幸福。

In my childhood, my parents made me feel the happiness of love and taught me how to love someone. In my youth, I inherited the full love from my parents, found my husband who loves me and me, and raised my daughter who loves me and me. If life is seen as a poem, then motherly and fatherly love is the most affectionate brushstroke in the poem; if life is seen as a song, then motherly and fatherly affection is the most touching note in the song. The love of my mother and father is perfect and flawless. I will use my actions to make my parents happy every day with all my strength for the rest of my life.

摄影: 马玲，罗悦明，倪捷儿 文字：倪捷儿 出镜人：田如华、倪捷儿、倪成明、罗悦明等

Photography: Ma Ling, Luo Yeming, Ni Jieye Text: Ni Jieye Appearance: Tian Ruhua, Ni Jieye, Ni Chengming, Luo Yeming, etc.