人生的七个坎,你过了几个?

十八子

<p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;">人生一共就是由几个十年组成的,每个十年都有不同的经历、不同的心境,每个十年追求的东西都不一样。</span><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">鱼与熊掌不可兼得,在追求的过程中你总要有取舍,该取什么?该舍什么?</strong></p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">十岁时</strong></span>,应该不再计较家里给的零花钱多少,不和别人家的孩子比较穿名牌服装。少不更事,和人家比吃穿,还情有可原,年纪到了整数就该懂事了。</p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">二十岁时</strong></span>,该不再计较自己的家庭出身,不再计较父母的职业。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>十几岁时,会和别的孩子比较家庭出身,比爹娘官大官小,恨不得都投生帝王之家、将相之门,也是人之常情。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>但如果到了“弱冠”之年,还弱不禁风,尚无自立之志,出身贫寒的还为家庭自卑,老觉得抬不起头来;出身富豪的还处处依靠父母,在家庭荫护下养尊处优,那就会一辈子都没出息。</p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">三十岁时</strong></span>,已成家立业,为父为母,有了几年家庭生活的经验。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>大丈夫该不再计较妻子的容貌,深知贤惠比美貌更重要,会过日子的媳妇比会打扮的媳妇更让人待见;</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>老婆该不再计较老公的身高,明白能力比身高更有作用,没有谋生能力的老公,纵然长成丈二金刚,还不如卖炊饼的武大郎。</p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;">四十岁时</span></strong></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;">,该不再计较别人的议论,谁爱说啥就说啥,自己想咋过就咋过。人言可畏,吓吓上世纪30年代的阮玲玉还成。</span></p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;">如今的明星,一星期听不到他的绯闻轶事,没人对他议论纷纷,他就急得火烧火燎的。咱们虽然没有明星那高深道行,但不会再轻易被别人议论左右,这点本事应该有的,<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">否则也对不起“不惑”这两个字啊。</strong></span></p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">五十岁时</strong></span>,该不再计较无处不在的不平之事,不再计较别人的成功对自己的压力,不再眼红他人的财富。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>半百之年,曾经沧海,阅人无数,见惯秋月春风,不再大惊小怪;历尽是非成败,不再愤愤不平。看新贵飞扬跋扈,可不动声色;看大款挥金如土,也气定神闲,耐住性子。</p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">六十岁时</strong></span>,如果从政,该不再计较官大官小,退了休,官大官小一个样,都是退休干部;</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>如果经商,该不再计较利大利小,钱是挣不完的,再能花也是有限的,心态平和对自己身体有好处;</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>如果舞文弄墨,当不再计较文名大小,文坛座次。</p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">七十岁时</strong></span>,人到古稀,该不再计较的东西更多,看淡的事情更广。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>年轻时争得你死我活的东西,现在只会淡然一笑。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>中年时费尽心机格外计较的东西,如今看来已无关紧要。一生多少事,“都付笑谈中”。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>这个岁数的老人,要有三样特别积极:<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700;">健康的身体、和谐的家庭、良好的名声。</strong></p> <p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>人生在世,如果计较的东西太多,名利地位,金钱美色,样样都不肯放手,那就会如牛重负,活得很累;反之,什么都不计较,什么都马马虎虎,什么都可以凑合,那也未免太对不起自己,活得没啥意思。</p><p style='margin: 0.63em 0px 1.8em; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(25, 25, 25); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: "PingFang SC", Arial, 微软雅黑, 宋体, simsun, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; counter-reset: list-1 0 list-2 0 list-3 0 list-4 0 list-5 0 list-6 0 list-7 0 list-8 0 list-9 0; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;'>聪明的人,有生活智慧的人,会有所不为,只计较对自己最重要的东西,并且知道什么年龄该计较什么,不该计较什么,有取有舍,收放自如。</p>