How to maintain an intimate relationship with your confidant

清馨高雅

How to maintain an intimate relationship with confidant who are in different industries
Recently, There is an increasingnumber of people who have been tending to and even get used to reading articles from the WeChatcircles,publiclinksormicroblog during their spare time,such as when they go to work or on the way home after work,Of course, drivers usually listen to the radio so as to purify their mind, let themselves know the latest information in the field of concern, and improve themselves.To be honest,I am not an exception.I'm one of those people.
  Nowadays, people seem to be addicted to mobile phones in both work and life. There is even a popular saying goes: If only you have one phone in hand,comes everything you want . Friends in life and online are part of people'sleisure andsocial time.Therefore, mobile phone has become the best communication medium for people after work.Through casual dabbling in learning, I have a new understanding and feelings on the issue of confidant.Now Let me share my thoughts with you.
          If you have a confidant or bosom friend in your life, he or she is enough to comfort all. Confidants in life maybe do not work in the same industry, It can be said that most confidants work in different work areas.So how to maintain intimate relationships with confidants who are very different from each other in the industry?From my point of view, there are three main points need to be dealt with.
        In the first place, give each other space.Between bosom friends,Don't force them to do something , don't put pressure on each other,don't impose your ideas on him or her. Feeling each other's love and freedom in deep heart.Give each other a little space to digest their emotions, don't ask too much, when appropriate to give a comfort and greetings,it can minimize the tension of the relationship, enhance intimacy.
   On the second place, good communication.An intimate relationship is about friendly communicating emotionally and accepting each other's feelings.In other words, maintaining an intimate relationship isn't about discussing what you're talking about, it's about understanding each other's feelings.So the feeling of communication is more important than the content.
       To sum up, if you want to maintain intimacy with each other, you need to learn empathy, effective communication, empathy, and unconditional love.The closest confidant also needs his own space, love is not possession, the more intimate the relationship, the more to maintain a certain distance.As long as you are reasonable enough, considerate, as long as you see through the nature of things, distance, really can produce beauty!That is to say, confidant or bosom friend, not necessarily often contact, but must remember in the heart;Not necessarily icing on the cake, but can provide timely help;Not necessarily travel through the wind and rain, but can cater to every wish.

行业差异特别大的知己，怎样维持亲密关系？
        最近，人们都比较喜欢甚至是习惯于上下班业余时间抽空浏览朋友圈,公众号或者微博里的相关文章，当然，开车的人一般都会选择听广播，让自己了解到所关注领域的最新资讯，以此来净化自己的心灵，提升自己。说实话，我也不例外，我也是这类人其中的一个。
       当下无论是在工作中还是在生活中人们似乎都已经离不开手机了，甚至有一种当下比较流行的说法：一机在手，全都拥有。生活中的朋友和网上的朋友都是人们业余时间和社交生活的一部分。因此手机便成了人们工作之余的最佳沟通交流媒介。下面谈谈通过不经意间的涉猎学习，我对知己这个问题有的新的认识和感受。
        人生若得一知己，足以慰风尘一切。生活中的知己不一定工作都属于同一个行业，可以说大多数知己工作性质不尽相同。那么行业差异特别大的知己，该怎样维持亲密关系呢？在我看来，主要有三个主要方面需要处理好。 
         首先，给彼此空间。知己之间，彼此不必强求获得对方的认可与理解，感受对方对你的爱与自由即可。给彼此一点空间自己消化情绪，不要过多的追问，在适当的时候给予一声安慰和问候，就能最大程度的缓解紧张的关系，增进亲密关系。

其次，良好的沟通。一段亲密的关系，重点在于情感上的交流和接受彼此的感受。也就是说，维持一段亲密关系，重点不在于彼此讨论交流的内容是什么，而是彼此是否能理解对方的心里感受。所以说，感受沟通其实比沟通内容更重要。
          总之，想要维系彼此的亲密关系，要学会换位思考，有效沟通，学会感同身受，学会不讲条件，即无条件的爱。再亲密无间的知己也需要自己的空间，爱不是占有，越是亲密的关系，越要保持一定的距离。只要你足够通情达理，善解人意，只要你看透世事本质，距离，真的可以产生美！也就是说，知己，不一定常常联系，但一定记在心中；不一定锦上添花，但一定雪中送炭；不一定风雨同行，但一定有求必应。