其实这都是假象。
判断一个人是不是进入了中年,我认为不是年龄,而是看能不能做到这三个"能":藏、忍、守。
"},{"img_url":"https://ss2.meipian.me/users/279967/0604c59fe782431b997a8bfa9bd0c222.jpg","img_height":442,"img_width":640},{"text":"1、藏
一藏才华:君子才华,如玉韫珠藏。心里明白,嘴上不说;低调做人,收敛锋芒,不咄咄逼人。
二藏过去:人到中年,不论年轻时多么辉煌,也要看淡过去,勿再张扬,懂得适当地放下,多亲近友情和亲情,留一份美好记忆藏于心底。
三藏自己:每个中年人,尽管内心都藏着一个别人不知道的自己,无时无刻不在和另一个自己在辩论,在斗争,在厮杀……但示于人者,皆是\"宠辱不惊,看庭前花开花落;去留无意,望天上云卷云舒\"。
"},{"img_url":"https://ss2.meipian.me/users/279967/c760f0752fd442e892ef2a9d3ca4c0eb.jpg","img_height":418,"img_width":605},{"text":"2、忍
人到中年,职场沉浮,人人都是孙悟空。
作家南千寻说,五百年前,悟空拜的不是如来,是未来;五百年后,只拜如来。一只天不怕地不怕的猴子,俨然猴到中年。走出五百年,说归来还是少年的,都是骗人的,归来早就成一油腻大叔了。
因为中年人的头上,都戴着看不见的金箍,早就在现实面前认了怂。
忍了,才不会经受咒语之苦;哪怕你本领再大,金箍棒也打不掉那头上的金箍。
有位哥们,在私企工作,一次,领导让他加班。他义正言辞的说,上班是必须的,值班是应该的,但加班,我做不到。
领导说:滚。
于是,他\"滚\"着去加班了。
这就是忍!
头上的箍摘不掉,你就要学会夹着尾巴做人,用自己的隐忍无奈,换取家人的富足安稳。
"},{"img_url":"https://ss2.meipian.me/users/279967/55def2c8d5264e4bb4babc851690a258.jpg","img_height":442,"img_width":640},{"text":"3、守
如果中年是人生的分水岭,那么这个年纪在人生经历的确是水到渠成的成熟。
这是岁月换来的成熟。
中年人的"守",就是守住自己不切实际的欲望,对明显不该属于自己的名利不羡慕、不占有、不贪图,也绝不会为了一点蝇头小利而失守底线、尊严和原则。
不从结果看得失,而是学着从过程看人生。只有自己心里洒满一路阳光,笑对每一个今天,悄然着一份风轻云淡,在渐次展开的生命画卷中,才会收获我们生命的厚重与平凡。
中年人就是这样:从从容容、简简单单;自然而然,然而不然。
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其实这都是假象。
判断一个人是不是进入了中年,我认为不是年龄,而是看能不能做到这三个"能":藏、忍、守。
"},{"img_url":"https://ss2.meipian.me/users/279967/0604c59fe782431b997a8bfa9bd0c222.jpg","img_height":442,"img_width":640},{"text":"1、藏
一藏才华:君子才华,如玉韫珠藏。心里明白,嘴上不说;低调做人,收敛锋芒,不咄咄逼人。
二藏过去:人到中年,不论年轻时多么辉煌,也要看淡过去,勿再张扬,懂得适当地放下,多亲近友情和亲情,留一份美好记忆藏于心底。
三藏自己:每个中年人,尽管内心都藏着一个别人不知道的自己,无时无刻不在和另一个自己在辩论,在斗争,在厮杀……但示于人者,皆是\"宠辱不惊,看庭前花开花落;去留无意,望天上云卷云舒\"。
"},{"img_url":"https://ss2.meipian.me/users/279967/c760f0752fd442e892ef2a9d3ca4c0eb.jpg","img_height":418,"img_width":605},{"text":"2、忍
人到中年,职场沉浮,人人都是孙悟空。
作家南千寻说,五百年前,悟空拜的不是如来,是未来;五百年后,只拜如来。一只天不怕地不怕的猴子,俨然猴到中年。走出五百年,说归来还是少年的,都是骗人的,归来早就成一油腻大叔了。
因为中年人的头上,都戴着看不见的金箍,早就在现实面前认了怂。
忍了,才不会经受咒语之苦;哪怕你本领再大,金箍棒也打不掉那头上的金箍。
有位哥们,在私企工作,一次,领导让他加班。他义正言辞的说,上班是必须的,值班是应该的,但加班,我做不到。
领导说:滚。
于是,他\"滚\"着去加班了。
这就是忍!
头上的箍摘不掉,你就要学会夹着尾巴做人,用自己的隐忍无奈,换取家人的富足安稳。
"},{"img_url":"https://ss2.meipian.me/users/279967/55def2c8d5264e4bb4babc851690a258.jpg","img_height":442,"img_width":640},{"text":"3、守
如果中年是人生的分水岭,那么这个年纪在人生经历的确是水到渠成的成熟。
这是岁月换来的成熟。
中年人的"守",就是守住自己不切实际的欲望,对明显不该属于自己的名利不羡慕、不占有、不贪图,也绝不会为了一点蝇头小利而失守底线、尊严和原则。
不从结果看得失,而是学着从过程看人生。只有自己心里洒满一路阳光,笑对每一个今天,悄然着一份风轻云淡,在渐次展开的生命画卷中,才会收获我们生命的厚重与平凡。
中年人就是这样:从从容容、简简单单;自然而然,然而不然。
"},{"text":"此文选自6月3日龙城使君微信公众号(ID:meishanjl),可搜索关注。
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